I really struggled with a title for this post! I’m still not sure if it will change again before I publish it... I wasn’t sure calling it bitchy, ranty scream fest was quite right haha! But that’s kind of what it’s going to be!!
As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve been separated for almost 3 years now. Well August last year I finally got around to getting a lawyer to make all the property stuff offical and, well, legal. It had been agreed from the beginning that I would keep the house and I didn’t have to buy his share out. I just got the house and the associated debt. That hasn’t changed. It’s still happening. It’s just taking for-fucking-ever!! I don’t know how it can be so difficult to just sign your name!! Oh no, “my client wants this word changed” like seriously?! I needed to google the bloody word to find out what it meant! Oh and guess what, contemporaneously just means at the same time... so simultaneously couldn’t have been used? Or you know, the sentence could have been left how it was!
I’ve had my new loan approved for 3 months now and I keep getting emails from the bank asking if I’ve got the legal paperwork yet. How many times can I reply with “still waiting” ?? I’m still paying my current loan so I guess at least my new one will end up being a bit less by the time it actually takes effect... but that’s not the point! He knows I’ve been and sorted that out, so the change of wording mentioned above is pretty much pointless for either of us. I’m sure his lawyer is loving the $$ though... I get the feeling they are as much a hold up in this process as he is. Maybe if they spent more time doing legal work than they do on cheesy Facebook posts this could get sorted...
It seems Mr “I’ll do whatever I can to make it easier for you and the kids” thought I’d just do nothing so now he has to be Mr difficult. And really, he has no right to that. He’s the one that epically screwed up our lives! He’s the one that did all the dumb things. He’s the one that dug himself this hole. I’ve been far nicer than I could have been. And now I’ve had enough! I respond to my lawyer within 24 hours of any correspondence, and I know that they pass it on quickly too. Because they know that I just want this sorted. They know I’m not loaded and I can’t afford to pay them forever... I’m not entirely sure how he’s funding this expedition either, given child support agency assessed him as only having to pay me less than $10 PER WEEK....
It’s so sad that someone who was meant to love me and be beside me forever is now a complete stranger. That I have no idea what to expect or to believe from him because he is not predictable and he is not true to his word. I just want to yell at him!! To make him realise all the damage that he’s done. HIM. His choices. His actions. But he seems incapable of accepting that.
Of course I can be a totally unreasonable, over reactive, psycho cow at times. And he knows that. But that is so not the case here. I’m standing up for myself and my babies.
So if you happen to communicate with my ex-husband, please tell him to stop being a dick!
PS, I did change the title.
It was called “it’s something unpredictable, but in the end is right”
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