You know that quote “it’s not about counting the years, but making the years count”? Yeah well that’s true. You might not think it at the time, but when you look back on your camera roll and see the things you did and the people you shared your time with, you’ll understand. I take so many photos of my kids (they’re funny and cute and I love sharing their craziness with everyone!) and every time I look back at them I’m filled with love and happiness. They may have been doing something naughty (but obviously I needed evidence) but it still sparks a memory that makes me smile. They love looking at their photos and videos too, especially the Facebook memories from when they were babies. We may not go on fancy holidays (although they keep bugging me to go on a cruise!) or eat out at expensive restaurants. We don’t wear designer clothes, hell I can barely get them to wear ANY clothes! But we have fun. We are a family that love each other and I bust my ass to give them a good life. So when they tell me I’m the best mumma ever, I know they truly believe that.
Another thing I’ve been working on accepting is making my own happiness. I am more than capable of taking on the challenges of life, and I’m worthy of my own happiness! I love to laugh and smile and share that with others, so it’s only fair I do that for myself too. I don’t need a new car to make me happy. I don’t need a rich boyfriend, or a hot boyfriend, or actually, any boyfriend to complete my life. I’m smart and strong and independent!! I don’t think many guys would actually be worthy of this hot mess anyway ;) I’m busy finding things that make me happy and give me enjoyment. Things that help me be ok with being me. In the words of Vanessa Amorossi - “I spent years really hating me, longing to be friends, now I hope that you can understand, this is who I am”
Following on from that, don’t settle! Don’t say you’re ok with something if you’re not. Don’t let someone treat you crappy if you don’t like it. Cos if you keep letting them do it, they’ll keep doing it! Know your worth. You deserve to be treated like the majestic fucking unicorn you are! Whether it’s partners, family, friends or workplaces, don’t be taken for granted. I’m not saying you should be an asshole back to everyone, but stand up for you. Make the choice to make a change. Don’t be afraid to cut people off. If they aren’t adding value to your life, they’re probably adding drama. You don’t need that.
It’s ok to take time out for yourself. You’re not a bottomless jar of Nutella, you can’t make everyone happy all the time! You need to take a day here and there to regroup. To get your head back in the game. Recharge your batteries, fill your cup and dance around in your underwear (trust me, your favourite playlist and comfy undies do wonders for your soul). Don’t feel guilty for not having it all together, all the time. You’re a person, not a robot.
Ask for help! It’s ok. Anyone who truly cares about you won’t let you fall.
Know who’s got your back. Don’t believe the ones who say it, believe the ones who show it!
And most importantly, love!! Sprinkle that glitter everywhere you go! It doesn’t matter if your heart’s been broken, love again. It doesn’t matter if people don’t love you back, or in the same way, love them anyway. Don’t let the harshness in this world turn your heart to stone. Smile at a stranger, pat a dog, drop some coins in a charity box, help a mum with a screaming child. Whatever it is you do, it may just change someone’s whole day.
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